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"If you can DREAM it, you can DO it."
Walt Disney
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As a youngster, I dreamt of being a writer or an explorer. However, early on, I was made to believe that my dreams would never materialize simply because it was thought that these occupations are only available to a very limited number of privileged people.
Now that I am grown up, I can see clearly that my dreams were within my reach. It has become obvious that unconsciously my parents and some teachers were transferring their limitations from themselves onto me.
When I look around I see that many parents unconsciously limit their children to what they think is possible for them. Although most parents think that they are acting out of love for their children and claim to want the best for them, the primary reason for the transference of such limitations is fear. Their fear of failure for their offspring drive them to encourage their children towards a career where the employment rate after the completion of their studies is high. Rather than pushing their children to a fulfilling career path, they push them towards a more secure one. Although they want their children to be happy they teach them to learn to settle for second best and compromise a fulfilling life for a secure life.
After secondary school, I wanted to enter a media and performing arts school. In France, the media world is viewed as a very hard circle to get into. I was therefore advised by my father to enrol in a maintenance engineer course because according to him, in the world we live in, engineers will always be needed. So here I was, embarked on a 4 years journey simply to please my parents and to relieve them from their fears of seeing me fail; of course in the name of love.
Around 17 years old, I was very much into music and dancing. I was teaching street dancing to younger kids in my area for 20 hours a week whilst still at school. I was bunking off school every other day and could not wait for my studies to be over. My parents did not know what to do with me as I could not be controlled. I would not do my homework and did not give a care in the world about school. The funny thing is that somehow my behaviour was a direct link to their lack of faith in my career choices. If I did go to a media school, I don't think I would have been such a rebel, life in the classroom was so uninteresting to me that very soon whatever small interest I may have had was completely lost.
When my studies were finally over, I decided to go to London to learn English and to explore the performing world on the British land. My parents had of course understood that I did not want to have anything to do with maintenance and resigned to this idea. However, their fear did not diminish; they could not cope with my fearless attitude to go for such a daring lifestyle. My mum then asked me when I would decide to settle for an office job and stop this performing nonsense. She wanted me to have a standard 9 to 5 job. At that time in my life, I was mature enough to ask her, "Do you want me to be happy?" she said "yes", and then I said, "So let me do what I like because it makes me happy. An office job would make me miserable...is this what you want for me?"
From this day on, I do not recall having heard my mum mention another word about my career choices, ever since she has always encouraged me to do what fulfils me. As for my dad, I think that he still holds onto the idea that I should have a standard job in order to be happy, but he does not really talk about it.
I am very grateful that eventually my parents got to realize that I ought to make my own choices. They learnt that part of loving their children is to allow them the freedom to make their own choices.
I am aware that many children were not as fortunate. As a dancer, I have met many artists who had to hide their occupation from their family. Many parents would not accept the idea of their children doing anything other than law or medicine studies. Some parents fail to accomplish their dreams to become proficient in an area of their life and push their children to live their dream for them.
What about you, Do/did your parents try to push you onto an unwanted path?
Do you feel that you are doing a job or studying to please someone else?
Do you work simply to pay the bills and to remain in a secure place but somehow don't feel fulfilled?
Although we all know that our parents advice can be valuable, do you always follow them without questioning?
If you answered yes to at least one of these questions, I assure you that your life could be much more fulfilling. Your life may be ok now, but is it enough to be just ok when life could be great?
Do what your heart tells you to do! Do not play safe by doing what will give you a 'secure' life. Life should be lived fully, not halfheartedly.
Your parents had their own shot with their life; now it is your turn. Do what is in tune with who you are.
If you feel that you have somehow wasted your time, go now, do not look back, start afresh and live you dreams, or you may regret it later.
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Now that I am grown up, I can see clearly that my dreams were within my reach. It has become obvious that unconsciously my parents and some teachers were transferring their limitations from themselves onto me.
When I look around I see that many parents unconsciously limit their children to what they think is possible for them. Although most parents think that they are acting out of love for their children and claim to want the best for them, the primary reason for the transference of such limitations is fear. Their fear of failure for their offspring drive them to encourage their children towards a career where the employment rate after the completion of their studies is high. Rather than pushing their children to a fulfilling career path, they push them towards a more secure one. Although they want their children to be happy they teach them to learn to settle for second best and compromise a fulfilling life for a secure life.
After secondary school, I wanted to enter a media and performing arts school. In France, the media world is viewed as a very hard circle to get into. I was therefore advised by my father to enrol in a maintenance engineer course because according to him, in the world we live in, engineers will always be needed. So here I was, embarked on a 4 years journey simply to please my parents and to relieve them from their fears of seeing me fail; of course in the name of love.
Around 17 years old, I was very much into music and dancing. I was teaching street dancing to younger kids in my area for 20 hours a week whilst still at school. I was bunking off school every other day and could not wait for my studies to be over. My parents did not know what to do with me as I could not be controlled. I would not do my homework and did not give a care in the world about school. The funny thing is that somehow my behaviour was a direct link to their lack of faith in my career choices. If I did go to a media school, I don't think I would have been such a rebel, life in the classroom was so uninteresting to me that very soon whatever small interest I may have had was completely lost.
When my studies were finally over, I decided to go to London to learn English and to explore the performing world on the British land. My parents had of course understood that I did not want to have anything to do with maintenance and resigned to this idea. However, their fear did not diminish; they could not cope with my fearless attitude to go for such a daring lifestyle. My mum then asked me when I would decide to settle for an office job and stop this performing nonsense. She wanted me to have a standard 9 to 5 job. At that time in my life, I was mature enough to ask her, "Do you want me to be happy?" she said "yes", and then I said, "So let me do what I like because it makes me happy. An office job would make me miserable...is this what you want for me?"
From this day on, I do not recall having heard my mum mention another word about my career choices, ever since she has always encouraged me to do what fulfils me. As for my dad, I think that he still holds onto the idea that I should have a standard job in order to be happy, but he does not really talk about it.
I am very grateful that eventually my parents got to realize that I ought to make my own choices. They learnt that part of loving their children is to allow them the freedom to make their own choices.
I am aware that many children were not as fortunate. As a dancer, I have met many artists who had to hide their occupation from their family. Many parents would not accept the idea of their children doing anything other than law or medicine studies. Some parents fail to accomplish their dreams to become proficient in an area of their life and push their children to live their dream for them.
What about you, Do/did your parents try to push you onto an unwanted path?
Do you feel that you are doing a job or studying to please someone else?
Do you work simply to pay the bills and to remain in a secure place but somehow don't feel fulfilled?
Although we all know that our parents advice can be valuable, do you always follow them without questioning?
If you answered yes to at least one of these questions, I assure you that your life could be much more fulfilling. Your life may be ok now, but is it enough to be just ok when life could be great?
Do what your heart tells you to do! Do not play safe by doing what will give you a 'secure' life. Life should be lived fully, not halfheartedly.
Your parents had their own shot with their life; now it is your turn. Do what is in tune with who you are.
If you feel that you have somehow wasted your time, go now, do not look back, start afresh and live you dreams, or you may regret it later.
(Thank you for reading. Please share this article on facebook and other social networks it would help us tremendously!)
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