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Whether it is members of our family, our friends or strangers, people often have ideals and principles, which they believe are righteous. They believe that everybody should go by their standards which in turn creates expectations of others.
I believe most of us are subject to people's expectations and I realize that those expectations are prisons. The expectations that people have of us are sometimes stifling, slowly they can take away our whole freedom to be who we truly are and do what we truly want to do.
It is easy to lose yourself and become overwhelmed by people's expectations.
Sometimes we don't see them coming, here are a few examples:
- Your parents might expect you to marry someone from the same ethnicity, religion or background even though you are open to date outside your race or beliefs..maybe you don’t even believe in marriage for that matter! But in order to please your parents will, you do as it is expected of you.
-Your partner may expects you to stop seeing friends of the opposite gender because he/she thinks it is not appropriate... you don't agree but you oblige anyway
-Your boyfriend/girlfriend expects you to wear smart clothes, to have a formal hairstyle...etc Personally you would love to be more casual but just to please, you oblige anyway
-Your partner doesn't like it when you dance salsa with other people because he/she thinks this is not appropriate...despite the fact that you love dancing and don't want to give it up, to please your partner you oblige anyway
We compromise ourselves once, twice and before we know it, we are lost.
People are so used to living according to people's expectations that they don't even know anymore what they truly want for themselves. They don't really live their lives according to what they truly desire, instead their lives are dictated by other people.
To make this matter worse, many people act on what they expect people to expect from them, which adds another unnecessary pressure to their lives; they anticipate, often wrongly, what they think other people expect from them.
This attitude is due to the fear of not being accepted by others. Therefore, people try to fit into what is expected of them or what they think is expected of them to make sure that they are not rejected.
Do you recognize yourself?
The truth is that you are already being rejected. The real you is rejected, they have not accepted you, the person that they accept is the clone of their expectations that you have obliged yourself to be; but you are not there, the real you is lost. You have compromised yourself, your personality, your inner desires because of expectations.
But it is not entirely their fault, it is yours, you have to stand up for yourself, you have to show the world who you are, and it will have no choice but to accept you that way. But until you accept yourself and express yourself accordingly, nobody else will!
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I believe most of us are subject to people's expectations and I realize that those expectations are prisons. The expectations that people have of us are sometimes stifling, slowly they can take away our whole freedom to be who we truly are and do what we truly want to do.
It is easy to lose yourself and become overwhelmed by people's expectations.
Sometimes we don't see them coming, here are a few examples:
- Your parents might expect you to marry someone from the same ethnicity, religion or background even though you are open to date outside your race or beliefs..maybe you don’t even believe in marriage for that matter! But in order to please your parents will, you do as it is expected of you.
-Your partner may expects you to stop seeing friends of the opposite gender because he/she thinks it is not appropriate... you don't agree but you oblige anyway
-Your boyfriend/girlfriend expects you to wear smart clothes, to have a formal hairstyle...etc Personally you would love to be more casual but just to please, you oblige anyway
-Your partner doesn't like it when you dance salsa with other people because he/she thinks this is not appropriate...despite the fact that you love dancing and don't want to give it up, to please your partner you oblige anyway
We compromise ourselves once, twice and before we know it, we are lost.
People are so used to living according to people's expectations that they don't even know anymore what they truly want for themselves. They don't really live their lives according to what they truly desire, instead their lives are dictated by other people.
To make this matter worse, many people act on what they expect people to expect from them, which adds another unnecessary pressure to their lives; they anticipate, often wrongly, what they think other people expect from them.
This attitude is due to the fear of not being accepted by others. Therefore, people try to fit into what is expected of them or what they think is expected of them to make sure that they are not rejected.
Do you recognize yourself?
The truth is that you are already being rejected. The real you is rejected, they have not accepted you, the person that they accept is the clone of their expectations that you have obliged yourself to be; but you are not there, the real you is lost. You have compromised yourself, your personality, your inner desires because of expectations.
But it is not entirely their fault, it is yours, you have to stand up for yourself, you have to show the world who you are, and it will have no choice but to accept you that way. But until you accept yourself and express yourself accordingly, nobody else will!
(Thank you for reading. Please share this article on facebook and other social networks it would help us tremendously!)
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Expectations: Stand up for yourself
by Patrice Turlet
