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'Freedom is the right to be who you were born to be'
Obviously if we are all subject to people's expectations, we cannot deny that most of us have expectations on other people too. As we have seen on the previous article, expectations that people have of us make our life a prison. We cannot be ourselves; it is stifling.
Are you aware of the consequences that your expectations have on your friends and family? Do you realize that your expectations are bullying. Your expectations cannot allow your loved one to be truly happy, it is impossible. Your expectations force your relatives to compromise on who they are because of you. If you love people, you cannot keep putting such a burden on them. The very fact that you expect people to live or act a certain way shows that you have not yet accepted them for who they are.
Now that you are aware of it, you know that you have to drop your expectations because your expectations are against love.
I am trying to raise awareness here, because I know that if just one of you drop their expectations, at least 10 people will benefit from it. Anyone around you will feel the opportunity to be themselves, people around you will feel accepted for who they truly are not who you want them to be, they will feel free!
Let me share a little story with you.
Last year a friend of mine invited me to go with her to a house party. When we arrived there, one of her friends told her that she had a spare ticket for one of her favourite artist's concert on the very same evening. My friend was very excited about it, until she realized that I was there. She felt as if she had to stay because she invited me to the party and she was the only person that I knew there. She thought that I expected her to stay for me, therefore, she felt forced to decline the offer. Of course, I told her that it was not a problem for me, and I said "obviously this is what you want, just go!".
It was so refreshing to see that just telling her that I was ok with it made her free; she was relieved to know that I wasn't expecting her to stay with me and that all I wanted was to allow her to do whatever made her happy.
Imagine if I expected her to stay, it would have been against her real desire. She would have stayed because it was expected of her, because it was a principle, an expectation from me!
All of our rules, our principles, our expectations that we bring into our relationships are rigid, solid like prison walls and do not leave room for freedom. They are selfish, they are here to suit our needs, to feed our greed but there is nothing for other people within our expectations. It is all about us for us! Where is the love in that!
Where is the love if whatever someone you love does for you is forced and done as a duty rather than a genuine desire?
You expect your girlfriend to stop looking at other guys, but what difference will it make, she will still do it behind your back. You expect your boyfriend to tell you that you look slim even though he thinks the opposite.
Of course I am using silly examples here, but it is nevertheless true; your expectations make people act the way YOU want them to act but deep down you do not know them. Your expectations prevent you from truly knowing your friends and family, on the surface they just adapt to what is expected of them, but in truth, on a deeper level, you don't know them.
Learn to drop your expectations of people, it will help you to free yourself from those rigid principles and it will allow people around you to feel free as well as allowed to be who they truly are.
If you can relate to what I am saying and recognize yourself in my words, I think that you are in the right mindset but do not fall into making it a point to be different, do not create an identity out of being independent. Otherwise, you will create an ego, create your own conditioning and you may become against society. Do not be against anything, be pro freedom.
Please do not compromise yourself for the need to fit to society’s standards. It would be such a shame. Claim your right to be yourself, claim your right to freedom.
(Thank you for reading. Please share this article on facebook and other social networks it would help us tremendously!)
To chat about this post on the forum: Click here
Are you aware of the consequences that your expectations have on your friends and family? Do you realize that your expectations are bullying. Your expectations cannot allow your loved one to be truly happy, it is impossible. Your expectations force your relatives to compromise on who they are because of you. If you love people, you cannot keep putting such a burden on them. The very fact that you expect people to live or act a certain way shows that you have not yet accepted them for who they are.
Now that you are aware of it, you know that you have to drop your expectations because your expectations are against love.
I am trying to raise awareness here, because I know that if just one of you drop their expectations, at least 10 people will benefit from it. Anyone around you will feel the opportunity to be themselves, people around you will feel accepted for who they truly are not who you want them to be, they will feel free!
Let me share a little story with you.
Last year a friend of mine invited me to go with her to a house party. When we arrived there, one of her friends told her that she had a spare ticket for one of her favourite artist's concert on the very same evening. My friend was very excited about it, until she realized that I was there. She felt as if she had to stay because she invited me to the party and she was the only person that I knew there. She thought that I expected her to stay for me, therefore, she felt forced to decline the offer. Of course, I told her that it was not a problem for me, and I said "obviously this is what you want, just go!".
It was so refreshing to see that just telling her that I was ok with it made her free; she was relieved to know that I wasn't expecting her to stay with me and that all I wanted was to allow her to do whatever made her happy.
Imagine if I expected her to stay, it would have been against her real desire. She would have stayed because it was expected of her, because it was a principle, an expectation from me!
All of our rules, our principles, our expectations that we bring into our relationships are rigid, solid like prison walls and do not leave room for freedom. They are selfish, they are here to suit our needs, to feed our greed but there is nothing for other people within our expectations. It is all about us for us! Where is the love in that!
Where is the love if whatever someone you love does for you is forced and done as a duty rather than a genuine desire?
You expect your girlfriend to stop looking at other guys, but what difference will it make, she will still do it behind your back. You expect your boyfriend to tell you that you look slim even though he thinks the opposite.
Of course I am using silly examples here, but it is nevertheless true; your expectations make people act the way YOU want them to act but deep down you do not know them. Your expectations prevent you from truly knowing your friends and family, on the surface they just adapt to what is expected of them, but in truth, on a deeper level, you don't know them.
Learn to drop your expectations of people, it will help you to free yourself from those rigid principles and it will allow people around you to feel free as well as allowed to be who they truly are.
If you can relate to what I am saying and recognize yourself in my words, I think that you are in the right mindset but do not fall into making it a point to be different, do not create an identity out of being independent. Otherwise, you will create an ego, create your own conditioning and you may become against society. Do not be against anything, be pro freedom.
Please do not compromise yourself for the need to fit to society’s standards. It would be such a shame. Claim your right to be yourself, claim your right to freedom.
(Thank you for reading. Please share this article on facebook and other social networks it would help us tremendously!)
To chat about this post on the forum: Click here
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