By now, if you have watched some of my videos and/or read my articles you must understand that each and everyone of us has the right to be who they truly are. All of us has a different path to follow and a different purpose to achieve. Just as you need to express your true personality and have the need to put yourself in tune with your purpose, so does everyone else. This includes your friends, your family, your children and even your partner. Being able to give the freedom to people around you to be themselves and to follow their own path is a true act of love.
Although often mistaken, there is a tremendous difference between love and attachment. Love is free, love brings a security in the moment but insecurity in its longevity; you never know whether the person you love will always be available for you. This is why we attach ourselves. Through attachment we try to fix the longevity problem by securing love but by doing so it kills it. Attachment kills the beauty of love.
Because you think of yourself first and become a taker (click here to read about ‘givers and takers’ in this article).
When you love, you cannot include yourself in that love, if you do, you have a conflict of interest. If you do, you are mixing love with attachment. If you mix love with attachment you cannot truly love.
If you truly love someone, you have to detach yourself from them. Many people associate 'detachment' with not caring, but love and attachment are total opposites. When you detach yourself from people you love, this is when you truly care, you care about their welfare, you care that they make the right choices for themselves, you care that they live fulfilling and happy lives.
You act regardless of what you selfishly wish they did; you can only do that if you are detached. Otherwise, you ask them to compromise themselves for your own selfish needs. They stay with you out of guilt or do things just to please you, but deep down they wish they could do otherwise, because in reality those things go against their natural path.
So if you want to truly love you have to detach yourself from your loved ones so that you can allow them to grow into the person they are meant to be and to go with the flow of their own lives.
Of course attachment is almost always present in relationships, what is important is to be aware of the difference between love and attachment because it will make a great difference in the way you make decisions and the way that you act towards people you love.
The following articles will be on the same topic but I will show you how it applies to different types of relationships like parenting, friendships or loving relationships.
(Thank you for reading. Please share this article on facebook and other social networks it would help us tremendously!)
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Although often mistaken, there is a tremendous difference between love and attachment. Love is free, love brings a security in the moment but insecurity in its longevity; you never know whether the person you love will always be available for you. This is why we attach ourselves. Through attachment we try to fix the longevity problem by securing love but by doing so it kills it. Attachment kills the beauty of love.
Because you think of yourself first and become a taker (click here to read about ‘givers and takers’ in this article).
When you love, you cannot include yourself in that love, if you do, you have a conflict of interest. If you do, you are mixing love with attachment. If you mix love with attachment you cannot truly love.
If you truly love someone, you have to detach yourself from them. Many people associate 'detachment' with not caring, but love and attachment are total opposites. When you detach yourself from people you love, this is when you truly care, you care about their welfare, you care that they make the right choices for themselves, you care that they live fulfilling and happy lives.
You act regardless of what you selfishly wish they did; you can only do that if you are detached. Otherwise, you ask them to compromise themselves for your own selfish needs. They stay with you out of guilt or do things just to please you, but deep down they wish they could do otherwise, because in reality those things go against their natural path.
So if you want to truly love you have to detach yourself from your loved ones so that you can allow them to grow into the person they are meant to be and to go with the flow of their own lives.
Of course attachment is almost always present in relationships, what is important is to be aware of the difference between love and attachment because it will make a great difference in the way you make decisions and the way that you act towards people you love.
The following articles will be on the same topic but I will show you how it applies to different types of relationships like parenting, friendships or loving relationships.
(Thank you for reading. Please share this article on facebook and other social networks it would help us tremendously!)
To chat about this post on the forum: Click here
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ATTACHMENT: Love vs. attachment
by Patrice Turlet
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