Loving is letting go!
I observe a lot, it is my favourite pastime.
I love watching how people interact with each other and analysing the root of problems arising within different relationships.
I have noticed that the way parents raise their children varies from one family to another. I noticed that some parents tend to stifle their children whilst some give them more room to explore the world with their own eyes.
For example, my sister let her 2 daughters go to school on their own whereas the neighbours would not allow their children of the same age to do the same.
When I ask them why, they said because it is not safe, “imagine if they get run over by a car, I would never forgive myself, I love them too much”. Of course my sister has the same fear but she understands that she should not transfer her own fear to her children.
As I explained in the previous video/article, love and attachment have to be differentiated in order to make the best choices for the welfare of the people you love.
If you truly love your children, you must detach yourself from them, this is the best gift you can give them. You raise them but you have to let them go so that they can grow as independent adults. I know many people find it hard to do such a thing, many people cling to their children because they want to protect them; they call this an act of love. It is indeed an act of love to care but it is an act of attachment to prevent them from living their lives, to allow them to make their own choices, their own mistakes and develop their own potential.
They are not your children, they are the children that you gave birth to, they are the children that you raise with love, they are the children that you care for, but they are not YOUR children. They are not your possession. They are free human beings who need help to start their own journey. You are to them a helper that's all!
The thing responsible for this phenomenon is fear, we try to anticipate based on the fear that we have. What are mere possibilities we make facts in our mind and we prevent them from living. Yes, there is a possibility that they get run over but the fact is that if you explain kindly how to take extra care of cars they probably won't get run over. It is a scary thought to imagine the worst but do not make your children scared of life. Life is in the unknown, the future is a mystery, nobody knows when they will die, but do not make your children afraid of death because when you are afraid of death you are afraid of life and you live your whole life afraid to take risks.
You may say that it is easy to say for someone who doesn’t have children but do not judge the messenger, judge the message. Do not allow this excuse to stop you from seeing your mistakes, because as I said, I observed many parents and some manage to apply this in the education they give to their children and I see it work wonderfully. If you too try your best to apply it, it will allow your children to blossom into beautiful flowers.
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I love watching how people interact with each other and analysing the root of problems arising within different relationships.
I have noticed that the way parents raise their children varies from one family to another. I noticed that some parents tend to stifle their children whilst some give them more room to explore the world with their own eyes.
For example, my sister let her 2 daughters go to school on their own whereas the neighbours would not allow their children of the same age to do the same.
When I ask them why, they said because it is not safe, “imagine if they get run over by a car, I would never forgive myself, I love them too much”. Of course my sister has the same fear but she understands that she should not transfer her own fear to her children.
As I explained in the previous video/article, love and attachment have to be differentiated in order to make the best choices for the welfare of the people you love.
If you truly love your children, you must detach yourself from them, this is the best gift you can give them. You raise them but you have to let them go so that they can grow as independent adults. I know many people find it hard to do such a thing, many people cling to their children because they want to protect them; they call this an act of love. It is indeed an act of love to care but it is an act of attachment to prevent them from living their lives, to allow them to make their own choices, their own mistakes and develop their own potential.
They are not your children, they are the children that you gave birth to, they are the children that you raise with love, they are the children that you care for, but they are not YOUR children. They are not your possession. They are free human beings who need help to start their own journey. You are to them a helper that's all!
The thing responsible for this phenomenon is fear, we try to anticipate based on the fear that we have. What are mere possibilities we make facts in our mind and we prevent them from living. Yes, there is a possibility that they get run over but the fact is that if you explain kindly how to take extra care of cars they probably won't get run over. It is a scary thought to imagine the worst but do not make your children scared of life. Life is in the unknown, the future is a mystery, nobody knows when they will die, but do not make your children afraid of death because when you are afraid of death you are afraid of life and you live your whole life afraid to take risks.
You may say that it is easy to say for someone who doesn’t have children but do not judge the messenger, judge the message. Do not allow this excuse to stop you from seeing your mistakes, because as I said, I observed many parents and some manage to apply this in the education they give to their children and I see it work wonderfully. If you too try your best to apply it, it will allow your children to blossom into beautiful flowers.
(Thank you for reading. Please share this article on facebook and other social networks it would help us tremendously!)
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